Is the advice applicable to
you and your situation?
Singles are not the best
people to talk to if you are looking for an advice that would cater to
possibilities. Think of it like asking a baby to talk to you about life. If
there is no experience, how can you expect that person to tell you what to do?
So where to get relationship advice first? Instead of talking to singles, talk
to longtime partners. It is imperative that you talk to both of them so you will
know how men and women think about your situation. The variety of their pieces
of advice will greatly help improve your wisdom.
Was the advice too personal
for the giver?
Where you can get
relationship advice that is sound? Ask from someone who does not give advice
out of emotions. Notice that when you seek help from a close friend, it becomes
easy for him or her to share what you feel. As a result, the advice you get
would almost be the same decision as you reached when you were still at the
height of an emotion.
It may sound weird asking
random advice from strangers but you know, sometimes weird things happen if you
are open to them. Now if you are not into the idea of talking to strangers
personally, then you can do that online. Social networking sites and chat rooms
serve that purpose for you.
Are there any hidden
feelings and emotions involved?
When seeking advice, expect
to receive advice. Going back to the definition of an advice, it is a
suggestion that would lead to a possible solution of your personal dilemma. If
the advice is forced on you to believe or do, then there must be something
wrong. It could be that the person giving it has a hidden intention that could
lead to material or emotional gain.
Looking for someone to give
you sound advice and without a hidden motive can be frustrating. This is
because the motive is not expressed verbally and thus, detection would depend
on how sharp you are in figuring things out. Basically anyone, even those who
you think are not close to you, may have a personal or emotional motive and
that could affect the soundness of the advice given. So be very careful.
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